Date: Sat, 7 Nov 2009 09:30:41 -0500
From: Scribe 1971 <scribe1971@hotmail.com>
Subject: Substitute Dad Chapter 43

Welcome back readers!  I've been quite ill with the N1N1 flu for the past
week and a bit so this took me a bit longer than expected to complete.  I
hope you enjoy this chapter.  Thanks again to my editor David for his
enormous contribution to this chapter.  Keep in mind while you read this
chapter that I have played with timelines somewhat.  You'll hear about
something called the Highway of Heroes.  I actual fact, that whole thing
didn't start until after 9/11 and the start of the war in Afghanistan.  I
borrowed the concept and moved it ahead by a couple of years.  If you'd
like to hear more about it, check out this youtube video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n1R8qLAmkLU



This chapter is dedicated to the veterans of yesterday and today in honour
of Remembrance Day/Veterans Day that is coming up next week.  If you value
your freedom, take some time to thank a veteran.  Also a very happy
Thanksgiving to my American readers.  Enjoy your turkey dinners and your
time with your families.  Family is a key theme in this story and I hope
that this chapter illustrates that as well.



Scribe's Playlist for this chapter:



"Remembrance Day" - Bryan Adams

"After the War" - Sarah Slean

"A Pittance of Time" - Terry Kelly
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2kX_3y3u5Uo)

"I Want You To Live" - George Canyon
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HPMelnMdfHU)



Chapter 43 -- A Tragedy and a Great Honour

Josh's stay in the hospital was as frenzied as it was brief.  Somehow, word
of his condition got around at his school and a steady stream of his
friends showed up to visit.  Even a few of his teachers took the time to
appear and wish him well.  Before long his hospital room was filled with
balloons, get well cards, and an assortment of stuffed animals.

"How are you feeling bud?"  I asked him shortly after official visiting
hours ended and the last of the kids from his school were shooed from the
room by smiling nurses.

"Not too bad at all.  Still a bit sleepy.  I'm hungry too, but they won't
let me eat anything except Jell-O or custard until tomorrow," he replied.

"Look at this room," Susan said with a smile.  "It's amazing how many
people care about you."

"It's hard to believe, but it's great," Josh smiled wanly.

In the corner of the room was a huge hand made get well card that had been
made by the kids at his school and signed by just about everyone.

"What are we going to do with all this stuff when you leave the hospital
tomorrow?"  I asked.

"I was thinking about that and I have an idea," Josh said mysteriously.

"I'm sorry that I wasn't here to bring you to the hospital sweetie," Susan
said.

"It's ok Mom, Dad looked after me."

"I know he did," Susan smiled and patted me on the shoulder.

Just then my phone rang.  I looked at the number and knew who it was right
away.

Before I had a chance to say `hello', I heard, "How is he?"  Mark asked in
a worried tone.

"He's ok bud, want to talk to him?"  I asked and handed the phone to Josh.
"It's your brother," I said with a smile.

Josh talked to Mark for a few minutes and reassured him that he was fine.
It was quite heart warming to see just how close the two boys were.
Although they had quite different personalities and somewhat different
interests, over the years they had bonded and during the past year their
bond had truly made them brothers.  They were as close as I was with any of
my brothers.

After a few minutes, Bryan took the phone from Mark and spoke to Josh for a
few minutes as well.  Listening to Josh's side of the conversation, I knew
that I'd never have to worry about there being someone to look after Josh
if I wasn't able to.  I knew that Bryan would step up in a second if need
be.  Josh knew it too.

"Dad, Bryan wants to talk to you," he said as he handed me the phone.

"Bry, how are you doing?"

"Better now," he replied.  "I was worrying non-stop since you called
earlier."

"You and me both," I replied.

"He sounds like he's doing well," he observed.

"The doctor says that he's as fit as a fiddle.  He'll probably be
discharged tomorrow."

"I really wish we lived closer for times like these."  Bryan said
apologetically.

"I know...." I said, "and you know that I'd be there in a flash if the shoe
were on the other foot, fortunately, it wasn't necessary this time."

I spoke to Bryan for a few more minutes before hanging up.  "Joshy, I need
to go home for a few minutes to look after Brutus and get some clean
clothes to wear tomorrow.  I'll be back, I promise."

"I'll stay here until you get back," Susan said.  "I'll leave you boys on
your own tonight."

"Thanks Mom," Josh said.

As I left the hospital, I could feel a bit of a pang in my heart from
leaving Josh, but I knew he was healthy and in good hands.  I knew that
Brutus would need to be fed and walked and that I'd need some clean clothes
to wear the next day.  I also wanted to email my professors and let them
know that I wouldn't be in class for a day or two so that I could stay home
with Josh and look after him.

When I opened the door, Brutus was right there waiting for me.  His happy
barking and frantic tail-wagging brought a smile to my face.  I spent a few
minutes petting him and playing with him before letting him out to relieve
himself.  Before I had a chance to go downstairs, he was back at the door
barking to be let in.  Then I started heading downstairs to my apartment.
When I reached the top of the stairs, I turned to see if he was following
me.  Not surprisingly, he was sitting at the door as if waiting for his
master to return.

"Brutus," I said.

The big pup turned and looked at me.

"Josh will be home tomorrow.  I promise," I said.

At the mention of his master's name, his ears perked right up and his tail
started wagging again.  As I spoke to him, he tilted his head from side to
side.

"Want some cheese?"  I asked.

That got an immediate reaction from Brutus.  We had learned very quickly
that Brutus' most favourite thing in the world, besides all of us, was
cheese.  We all swore that his nose was somehow tuned to detect the
presence of cheese anywhere within the house.  As soon as anyone took
cheese out of a fridge, Brutus seemed to magically appear.  The big pup
jumped up and ran past me down the stairs to wait near my refrigerator.

I caught up with him and took a Zip-Lock baggie containing cubes of cheddar
cheese from the fridge.  Knowing how much of a cheese fiend Brutus had
become, I'd purchased a block of cheddar cheese and cut it into bite sized
pieces for just this purpose.

After feeding the very appreciative puppy a handful of cheese cubes, I went
and gathered a few clothes for the morning and sent out the various emails
that I had to send.  Finally, before leaving, I snapped Brutus' collar on
and took him for a walk in the park.  I was always amazed at how well
behaved Brutus was on the leash.  He didn't pull or try to take off in all
directions.  He trotted along beside me and occasionally followed some
scent that he picked up before doing his business.

After about fifteen minutes, we returned home.  I topped up Brutus' food
bowl and gave him some fresh water before heading out the door.

When I arrived back at Josh's hospital room, he had just finished speaking
to Shelly on his cell phone.

"Hi Dad," he said happily when he saw me.

"Hey bud, how are you feeling?"

"Same as before, he said.  I could really use a trip to the Mandarin right
about now,"

"If the doctor says it's ok, we'll go as soon as you're discharged," Susan
promised.

"Brutus really misses you," I said.  I described how he waited at the door
expecting Josh to come home.

"I'm glad you gave him some cheese," Josh said.

"It's amazing how attached dogs can become to their owners.  They really
are part of the family," Susan observed.  "I'm glad he'll be there when I
get home."

A little while later, Susan hugged and kissed Josh and wished him a good
night before leaving for home.  She'd have been more than happy to stay
with him, but she figured that having me there would be a better idea.

"Thanks for looking after me today Dad," Josh said.

"That's what I'm here for bud," I replied and gently tousled his short
spiky hair.

I pulled a chair up next to Josh's bed and we turned on the television.  I
rested my arm on the edge of Josh's bed and he wrapped his arm around mine
and grasped my hand.

"Have you ever gone hunting, Dad?"  Josh asked after a Canadian Tire
commercial advertising hunting gear ended.

"I did a few times with my Dad a long time ago.  I shot a deer once.  I
wouldn't mind going again sometime."

"I'd like to try it too.  A friend of mine at school just got his youth
firearms license an his apprentice hunter license and he's going to go
moose hunting with his Dad this fall and turkey hunting in the spring."

"That might be fun.  We should definitely get you your youth firearms
license anyway.  Do you think your Mom would be ok with it?"

"I think so.  Especially if we can fill up the freezer with all kinds of
meat!"

"Let's do it then," I replied.

I'd been thinking about getting my hunting license and this would give Josh
and I a chance to take the course together.  I also decided to get my
restricted firearms license, which would allow me to purchase handguns.  I
made a mental note to make a call the next day to book the courses with the
instructors that I had used for my non-restricted license.

Getting into hunting would also give me a reason to make another purchase
that I had been contemplating for some time -- a shotgun.  I had looked
at a nice Remington 870 Express pump action that came with a smooth bore
barrel for waterfowl and turkey and a rifled cantilever barrel for firing
slugs to take deer.

I had no doubt that Susan would be ok with Josh taking up hunting.  He'd be
fully trained and licensed and he'd be under my supervision the whole time.
It would give us something else that we could do together and it would
provide a source of healthy tasty meat.

Our experiences with shooting handguns in Edmonton had turned me onto the
idea of getting my restricted license and purchasing a pistol.  I enjoyed
target shooting immensely, but I also had another motive.

In the back of my mind was the thought that maybe one day Bob would
eventually get out of prison and if he ever came calling again, I wanted us
to be ready regardless of where we lived.  I figured that Josh and I would
try to talk Susan into coming out to the range with us and we'd teach her
the basics of using a pistol.  I didn't think that it would be all that
likely that any of us would have to use a gun to protect ourselves from Bob
or any other fool, but I figured it was a case of "better safe than sorry".

After a while, Josh drifted off to sleep and I reached over and turned off
the television.  The chair that I was in was not all that comfortable, but
it would have to do.  I sort of leaned forward and used the edge of his bed
as a cushion for my head and Josh continued to cling to my arm as he slept.
It wasn't long before I was sleeping soundly too.

That night I had an interesting dream.  Again, it seemed to be a dream of
the future.  We were in a rustic sort of cottage or chalet.  All of us were
there except for Mark and there were a number of dark suited men and women
with ear-pieces in their ears standing around near the doors.  Josh, the
woman, and children from the previous dreams, Bryan, me, and a few other
people were gathered around a big screen television.  We seemed to be
sitting on the edges of our seats watching something important unfold.  A
crackly voice that sounded strangely like Mark's could be heard from the
television saying, "Tycho base here, Unity has landed."  At that, we all
broke into cheers and the dream faded away.

I awoke bright and early the next morning and found that I was in pretty
much the same position that I had fallen asleep in.  Josh was still
sleeping and he still had my arm wrapped in his own.  I took a moment to
watch him sleep before gently removing my arm from his grip and after a few
stretches to get the kinks out, I headed to the bathroom.

I glanced at my watch and saw that it was only 6 AM, but decided that I was
up for the day.  I took a few moments to wash myself down in the sink and
to shave and brush my teeth before heading downstairs to the hospital
cafeteria for a cup of coffee and a muffin.  I grabbed a newspaper while I
was at it and then returned to Josh's room.

Josh was still sleeping when I returned, so I sat down near the window and
read the newspaper by the sunlight that was filtering into the room.  The
headline caught my attention right away.  It read:

"Canadian Soldier Dies in Mine Blast."

The secondary headline read:

"Soldier was member of local regiment."

I felt a palpable sense of dread as a read the article and that sense of
dread quickly turned to grief when I read this:

"Local soldier Warrant Officer Robert Phillips, Age 31, died last night in
Kosovo when his armoured vehicle struck an anti-tank mine.  Warrant Officer
Phillips was a reservist and a member of Toronto's storied Queens York
Rangers regiment had only been posted to the Kosovo region three weeks."

Rob Phillips had been my sergeant.  He'd been the man who had helped me
when I was injured.  We'd only just spoken to him back on Labour Day and
now he was gone.  Suddenly the turmoil of my thoughts hit my stomach.  I
dropped the paper and ran to the bathroom.  I barely made it before I threw
up the muffin that I'd eaten along with the coffee.  Nothing stayed down.
I was leaning on the toilet with the dry heaves when I felt a hand come to
rest on my shoulder.

"Dad?"  Josh said worriedly.  "Are you ok?"

I turned and wrapped my arms around him tightly and began to sob on his
shoulder.

"What's wrong Dad?"  Josh asked softly as he nuzzled my cheek and gently
rubbed my back.

I couldn't answer him right away.  It took me a minute to compose myself.
Josh held me and continued to try to comfort me the whole time.  Finally, I
was able to tell him what happened and show him the newspaper.

"I'm sorry Dad," Josh said.  He was a little teary-eyed himself.  He once
again wrapped his arms around me and held me tightly.

"I hadn't seen or talked to him in over a year, but knowing that he's gone
really hurts," I said.

"I know Dad, but everything's going to be fine.... I'm here for you," Josh
replied and kissed my cheek.

I hugged him harder for a second.  "I know son.  Thank you."

We both composed ourselves - brushed our teeth, the second time for me - by
the time the nurse arrived to check on Josh and to deliver his breakfast.
Until he was cleared by the doctor, all he could eat was custard and some
apple sauce.

Josh ate his breakfast in about two minutes flat and then went to use the
bathroom.  By the time he returned, doctor Wilson was waiting for him.

"So how are feeling this morning Josh?"  He asked jovially.

"I feel fine.  My side is a little sore where the staples are," he replied.

"That should start to feel better in a few days.  I'll give you a
prescription for some Tylenol 2's that will help with any tenderness.  Is
the mail moving ok this morning?" he asked.

"The mail?"  Josh replied puzzled.

"You know.... number two?"  Doctor Wilson asked with a chuckle.

"Oh that!  Josh laughed.  Yeah, I just took a.... I mean I just went number
two and everything was fine, but I couldn't push too hard."  He replied
sheepishly.

"Well that's good," Doctor Wilson replied.  "Hop up on the bed and let me
have a quick look at you."

Josh climbed back onto his bed while Doctor Wilson did his examination.

"Well Josh, you seem to be as fit as a fiddle.  How would you like to go
home?"

"I'd love to!"  Josh replied smiling.

"Good.  I'll sign your discharge papers and you'll be on your way.  Now I
want you to stay off school for the rest of the week and see your own
doctor next Wednesday or so to get those staples removed.  You can eat
whatever you want, but for the next week or so, I'd suggest avoiding stuff
like corn that is hard to digest."

"My Mom said we could go to the Mandarin tonight if you said it was ok,"
Josh said hopefully.

"I think that'll be just fine.  The procedure was textbook simple and
you're in terrific shape."

"I better call ahead and get them to make extra food," I said and managed a
chuckle.

"Just wait until my staples are out and then I'll get you," Josh laughed.

Doctor Wilson left to finish his rounds and to take care of getting Josh
discharged from the hospital while Josh called his mom on his cell phone to
tell her the good news.  There was no answer at home so he tried her cell
phone.

"That's wonderful news honey," Susan said.  I'm almost at the hospital and
I have someone with me who really wants to see you."

"Who is it?"  Josh asked.

Susan must have held her phone near Brutus because the next sound over the
phone was the sound of Brutus' happy bark.

A few minutes later, the nurse arrived with Josh's prescription and told
him he could get dressed and go home.  Josh hurriedly got out of the
hospital gown and put on his clothes.  He had to move carefully to avoid
pulling on the five or six tiny staples that held his incision closed.

By the time he was dressed. Susan had arrived.

"Can we go to the Mandarin now?"  Josh asked

Susan chuckled.  "I don't think they're open at 10 AM, honey.  How about we
go for lunch?"

"Sounds good to me," I said as animatedly as I could.

"We had some bad news this morning," Josh said.  I noticed that he said
"we" and not "Dad" and I loved him for it.

"Oooh, what happened?"  Susan asked in a concerned tone.

Josh told her about the death of Warrant Officer Rob Phillips and what he
had meant to me.

"I'm so sorry Tom," Susan said and then hugged me.

"Thanks," I said.  "Josh was my rock when I found out."

"I'm sure he was.  You two are good for each other."

"Where's Brutus?"  Josh asked.

"He's in the car waiting for you.  I didn't think they'd like the idea of
me bringing a dog into the paediatrics ward!"  Susan replied.

"Before we go, I have something to do," Josh said.  He then went around the
room and gathered his cards and letters and all the stuffed animals and
balloons.  All told, there were about two dozen stuffed animals of various
types and sizes and a good number of helium balloons.  He loaded both Susan
and I down and then told us to follow him.

We left his hospital room and then headed down the corridor.  Just before
the door that would take us towards to main reception, we turned left into
another corridor marked "Paediatric Oncology" It was the children's cancer
ward.

Accompanied by the astonished but very happy duty nurse, Josh, Susan, and I
visited each and every room and handed out each of the toys that Josh had
received.  It was so sad to see so many children who were that sick, but it
was heart warming to watch their faces light up when Josh handed them a
stuffed animal and took a moment to talk to them.  He offered encouragement
and tried to make them laugh.  He even shared stories about Shelly's
miraculous recovery.  He tried to give each of those children a little bit
of the hope that he had given Shelly.

Although it was obvious that he was tired and hungry and that his incision
was still pretty sore, Josh stood tall through it all and did his very best
to brighten the day of every child on that ward.  In more than a few of the
rooms, the children's parents were there and they recognized Josh from his
various media appearances of late.  Sadly, some of those children would
eventually lose their battle with cancer, but others would prevail.  All of
them would remember that visit and that simple gift for the rest of their
lives.

With all the stuffed animals and balloons given out, we headed out of the
hospital.  Josh was quite obviously relieved to be going home and both
Susan and I were once again left to marvel at the maturity and generosity
of that special boy that we both loved so much.

When Josh arrived at Susan's car, Brutus was barking his head off and
wagging his tail at maximum speed.  He was comically jumping around the
inside of the car going from the front seats to the back seats and back
again over and over again.  As soon as Josh opened his door, Brutus was on
him, madly licking his face and letting out happy yelps and barks.  I
couldn't honestly remember ever seeing him that happy before.

I followed Susan, Josh, and Brutus home in my Jeep.  They stopped at the
local drug store to fill Josh's prescription while I took a detour to the
local MacDonald's and picked up two of Josh's favourite breakfast
sandwiches along with a large orange juice and a couple of large coffees
for Susan and me.

We all arrived home at pretty much the same time and I had to laugh when I
saw Josh's eyes light up at the sight of the MacDonald's bag.  Susan and I
watched in amazement as he devoured both McMufffins in record time!

We spent a quite morning mostly watching television.  We called Bryan and
Mark to let them know that everything was ok and that Josh was home and to
tell them about Rob Phillips.

"God Damn it," Bryan said over the phone.  "I just read about that in the
paper and I thought the name sounded familiar."

"I couldn't believe it either.  It hit me like a ton of bricks," I replied.

"I wish I'd been there for you," Bryan said.

"It's ok Bry.  Josh had it covered."

"I have no doubt of that."  He laughed.

I told Bryan about what Josh had done with all the stuffed animals and
things and although he wasn't surprised in the least, he was impressed.

"What an incredibly sweet thing to do," he replied.

We spoke for a few more minutes before turning the phones over to Josh and
Mark.

After eating the MacDonald's breakfast, Josh actually only felt like eating
a small lunch.  By lunchtime, my stomach had returned to normal and I
enjoyed our light lunch.  We ended up relaxing for the rest of the day and
heading to the Mandarin for dinner.

During the afternoon, I made some phone calls to find out when Rob Phillips
would be returning to Canada.

I found out that he'd be arriving back the next day at around 10 AM through
the usual route.  Whenever a Canadian soldier falls in the line of duty
overseas, his/her body is flown back to Canadian Forces Base Trenton and
then driven along Highway 401 with the family and under police escort to
the Coroner's office in downtown Toronto, a distance of about 100 miles.

For that reason, it had been proposed that that stretch of the 401 Highway
be named "The Highway of Heroes".  An online petition had been started and
within two days had more than 500,000 signatures on it.  It was presented
to the provincial government and they responded.

A tradition had begun following repatriation ceremonies for fallen troops.
It began with firefighters who would park their trucks on top of all the
overpass bridges between Trenton and Toronto and they would stand on their
trucks and salute the motorcade as it went past.  They were soon joined by
ambulance crews and paramedics and police officers who would stop their
cars along the highways and on the bridges and stand and salute the fallen
soldiers.

Before long, ordinary citizens began to appear on the bridges and soon
every single highway bridge along the route would be crowded with people
paying their respects.  It happened each and every time one of our finest
fell in the line of duty overseas.  Josh and I decided that we'd join the
crowds on the bridges the next day when Rob Phillips made his final journey
home.

Again, Josh managed to out-eat all the patrons at the Mandarin.  I think
the staples from the operation incision were stretched to the limit that
night.

The next morning, Josh and I dressed in our full dress uniforms.  We both
wore our medals and we both looked immaculate as we headed out the door.
We drove east on the 401 until we came to Whites Road.  The overpass
already had a bunch of people standing on it including a fire truck and a
couple of police cars.  We parked the Jeep and walked back to the bridge
and joined the crowd.  Aside from the police officers and firemen, there
were around forty people.  Some wore military uniforms and some wore Royal
Canadian Legion uniforms but most were just ordinary people.  Some waved
flags and some carried signs and banners.

I glanced at my watch and figured that we probably had about twenty minutes
before the motorcade passed our bridge.

"How are you holding up Dad?"  Josh asked

"I'm ok bud," I replied.  "How are you doing?"

"Still kind of sore, but I'll manage.  Remember, just like you're always
there for me, I'm always here for you no matter what."

"I know bud.  Thanks."

We stood mostly in silence as we watched and listened for the approaching
motorcade.  I had just leaned on the railing when I felt a tap on my
shoulder.

"Sir?" an unfamiliar voice said from behind me.

I straightened myself up and turned around to see a middle age man with
grey hair standing in front of me.  Beside him was a boy who appeared to be
a bit younger than Josh.

"Hi there," I said.

"My name is Denis," the man said and offered his hand.  "I'm up here from
Portland Oregon on business and I saw all this going on and I had to check
it out.  I was driving past with my grandson Jeremy."

I accepted the man's hand and smiled.  I then explained what was happening
and why.  "I knew this man personally when I was in the army full time," I
added when I was finished.

"I'm sorry to hear that," the man said.  "War is a hell of a thing.
This...." he paused for a moment.  "This is amazing.  I'm not Canadian, but
I am moved by this," he said.

"Thank you," I replied solemnly.

"Is this just because he was a local boy or does it happen every time?"

"Every time," I replied.  "They even named this highway `The Highway of
Heroes'"

Denis shook his head for a moment.  "I'm sure it makes a difference for the
families," he said finally.

"I hope so," I replied.

"My grandson lives up here with his parents.  My son is his father.  I
notice that the young fellow with you is wearing a uniform too.  How could
get Jeremy involved with this?"

I took a few more moments to explain the cadet program to Denis and
suggested that Jeremy speak to Josh to hear about it first hand.

A minute later, traffic suddenly dropped off and we could hear horns
honking and the sound of approaching sirens.  In the distance, I saw a line
of police cars with lights flashing coming towards us on the highway.  By
now there were other police vehicles blocking the entrances to the highway
as the motorcade approached.  Cars and trucks in the eastbound lanes also
slowed down out of respect and some drivers honked their horns.

Behind the line of police cars, we could see a hearse followed by two
limousines and a number of marked and unmarked police cars.  As the hearse
approached everyone in uniform, Josh and I included, snapped to attention
and saluted.  Many of the civilians on the bridge began to clap their
hands.

Just like that, it was over.  As fast as it had started, the whole thing
had come to an end while the last row of police vehicles passed below and
traffic resumed its normal flow.  The people assembled on the bridge began
to depart.

"Thanks for taking the time to speak to us," Denis said to Josh and me.

"Not a problem at all, Sir.  Thank you for stopping by," I replied.

Josh and I walked back to the Jeep without saying much until we were
strapped in and driving home.

"You ok Dad?"  Josh asked.

"I'm doing fine kiddo.  You?"

"I'm a little sore, but ok.  I'm more worried about you than anything."

"I'm really ok son.  Being here helped a lot.  You've helped a lot too.
This really reminded me of my Dad's funeral."

"That must have been awful," Josh observed and then quietly added, "I can't
imagine having to go to your funeral."

I reached over and pulled his head towards mine and kissed his temple.
"I'm not going anywhere bud.  I promise."

We spent the next few days in relative peace and quite.  Susan and I doted
on Josh constantly and he had a steady stream of friends and well wishers
coming to visit.  Not surprisingly, he also kept up his efforts for the
Student's Council and continued his campaign for a National Student
Exchange.

We took the time to attend Rob's funeral that Monday.  He was buried with
full military honours in the massive veterans section of Toronto's Mount
Pleasant Cemetery.

On the drive home from the funeral, Josh said, "Dad, I thought that the
tribute that everyone made for Mr. Phillips on the highway was amazing, but
I didn't expect the funeral to be that large.  You'd have thought he was
the mayor or prime minister."

"Well Josh, he was almost in the prime of his life and he had a lot of
friends who respected and admired him for the person he was," I replied.
"Many folks nowadays think of a funeral as a celebration of life, whereby
they get together and talk about all the happy times they had with the
deceased.  For most families, I'm sure that takes the edge off the sadness
from the ordeal of putting their loved ones to his or her's final resting
spot.  In the case of a soldier or other public servant that loses his life
in the field of battle or law enforcement, the celebration is more somber
and respectful because the individual made the ultimate sacrifice.... a
sacrifice that influences and saves the lives of so many other
people.... people that will be given the opportunity to contribute to the
welfare of society through whatever means available to them.  People who
make that ultimate sacrifice deserve the ultimate expression of respect."

"You're right Dad.... just like Terry Fox.  Another hero Dad.... just like
you," Josh commented.  "Your Dad too, but we also have our silent
hero.... he's always there."

"Our silent hero?"  I questioned.

He smiled.  "Yup.... Bryan."

I smiled at Josh.  I knew he was right as a chill of passion ran through my
mind and body.  It was moments like this that I wished Bryan were here to
share the happiness I had because of Josh.

The following week, I took Josh to see his regular doctor who removed the
staples from his side and cleared him to return to school and to Air
Cadets.  His incision had healed nicely and he was feeling no ill effects
from the experience aside from a bit of muscle soreness in his side.  Other
than avoiding heavy lifting for a few weeks, he could do pretty much
whatever he wanted.

Once back at school, Josh went gung-ho to catch up with his studies and the
activities of the student council.  In addition to his thoughts about the
National Student Exchange program that he was trying to set up, Halloween
was fast approaching -- and he was a part of that committee too.  The
principal decided they would allow the student council to organize a
chaperoned dance on the Friday night before Halloween -- Halloween wasn't
going to be until the following Wednesday.  Josh asked if I'd be a
chaperone.  Naturally, I agreed.

"I wish Shelly could be here for it," he said.  "I guess I'll have to go
stag."

"I take it that there will be a disc jockey?"  Susan questioned.

"We think we have that covered Mom," Josh replied.  "One of the girls at
school said that her father has all the equipment and she'd find out if he
would help out."

"And what will your job be?"  I asked.

"I've been asked to be the master of ceremonies.  My only problem is, I
don't know what to wear as a costume."

"Tell you what bud," I said, "You've got so much on your plate right now,
how about you let me look after that little detail?"

"Well OK Dad, I'll trust you...." he said with a giggle, "...just don't
make it anything gory, ghoulish, or girlish.  I don't want to get into all
that make-up thing."

That night after Josh had gone to bed, I hit the internet and did a search
for costume outlets in the Toronto area.  Fortunately, I only had three
classes the next day, so I was able to go scouting.  I went to the biggest
outlet first.  BINGO!  What a fantastic variety they had.

After I explained the role that Josh was going to play at the dance, the
clerk showed me a costume I couldn't resist.  Actually, it was more of a
body suit than a simple costume.  It included putting on a pair of orange
sweat pants and an orange T-shirt with long sleeves.  Then came the body of
the `costume'.  It was about a three-foot diameter by about four foot long
pumpkin made of a styrofoam core, and covered with a tear-resistant
coating, an eighteen inch opening in the top with a wider open bottom.  It
was an easy chore for the clerk to slip it over my head when I bent down,
sticking my hands through the arm openings, and then it rested on my
shoulders.  Topping this whole thing off was a smaller smiling pumpkin
sculpted in a traditional fashion with missing teeth, a nose hole,
triangular eye openings and eye brows, which the clerk slipped over my head
and rested on top of the bigger body pumpkin.  I went to the mirror and had
a look -- remembering that Josh was maybe two inches shorter than me.

Then the clerk followed me over to the mirror and showed me the astounding
part of the costume.  Inside the pumpkin head was a circle of LED lights
that were battery operated.  When he turned them on from the switch at the
side, my whole face showed up and the entire head glowed lightly.  Although
I didn't have the orange T-shirt and sweat pants on, I wondered as I looked
in the mirror, if this would be a costume that the MC of a young teen dance
should wear.  It wasn't gory, ghoulish, or girly.  When the clerk told me I
could bring it back tomorrow if Josh didn't like it -- it was a sale --
maybe more than I wanted to pay, but for Josh, I sure didn't mind.

I had thought of getting myself the same costume, but when I thought of the
two of us trying to rig each other up, I decided I'd better have something
a bit simpler.  I opted for an overly done pirate suit, complete with false
eyebrows and goatee, a black eye patch, swashbuckler's hat, shirt,
trousers, a hook for a hand, and sword.  I declined on the peg leg
attachment.  I figured I had enough problems in that department.

I got home early that day, thank goodness, and put both costumes in my
bedroom and closed the door.  After supper, I went downstairs and pulled
out the sweat pants and T-shirt, then called up the stairs for Josh.

"Yeah Dad," he said as both he and Brutus came into my living area.  I
decided it was time to do something I'd never done before.

"Josh!"  I said sternly.  "Go into my bathroom right now and take your
clothes off!"

"Huh!?"  No doubt about it, he was perplexed.

"You heard me!  Do it!  AND I want you to put these on!"  I demanded as I
handed him the T-shirt and sweat pants.  Brutus looked up at me with his
head slung low.  He let out a low throaty, growling whine.  Oh, oh, I
hadn't counted on that.

"Dad," he almost whispered, "Have you been drinking?"

I couldn't do it.  I smiled and started laughing as I grabbed him into a
hug.  "No, no, no Josh.  Darn it all, I just can't get mad at you no matter
how I try.  Just go in there and change and I'll show you the rest of the
costume."

Josh smiled, and then looked at Brutus.  "Watch him Brutus, he's gone goofy
on us."  With my change of attitude, Brutus was now his old familiar happy
self with a wagging tail as Josh headed for the bathroom.  I went into the
bedroom, brought out the body of the costume, and set it on the floor in
the living area.  Brutus took a step back when he saw the size of the
pumpkin body, then approached it cautiously before giving it a good sniff.
Fortunately, he didn't lift his leg to it.

When Josh came out of the bathroom all dressed in orange, I'll have to
admit he did look ridiculous -- and completely disgusted.

"This is STUPID!" he exclaimed.  Then he looked at the big pumpkin on the
floor and said, "What the..."  I had a hard time to keep from laughing at
how silly he looked just standing there.

"OK son," I said giggling as I picked up the pumpkin body, "bend over...."
Then I did start to laugh.  "P... put... your arms up above your head."

Fortunately, laughter is contagious and considering the privacy of the
basement apartment, Josh started laughing without embarrassment too,
although I'm sure he understood the innuendo of my request.  With bouts of
giggles and laughter, I showed him the arm holes and at last he did bend
over so I could slip the body over his head.  When he stood up, I took a
step back and realized that with the orange arms and legs, it was a pretty
good outfit.  However, without the head, it still looked rather unfinished.

"How does it feel?"  I asked.  "Is it comfortable enough?  Not too heavy?"

"Well, it's OK dad, but..." he started laughing, "I feel pregnant!"

"OK son, I know what you mean.  Come on over to the mirror on the bedroom
door and have a look."  I went into the bedroom and picked up the head.
Brutus was full of wonder as he watched the commotion going on and
especially the change in Josh's appearance.

Josh looked in the mirror and just said, "Ohh Shit!  Dad!  It still looks
stupid!"

"Well Josh, you haven't got the head on yet.... just keep looking in the
mirror."  I reached up and lowered the pumpkin head over his head, hoping I
had it in the right direction for him to see.

He adjusted it slightly and then took a step back, tilted the head a little
this way and that, and finally said, "Yeah!  That looks good for a master
of ceremonies at a Halloween party."

I said, "Keep looking," as I turned on the LED lights in the head gear.

"WHOA!" he shouted.  "That's impressive!  Mom's gotta see this!"

I went over to the stair and called.  "Susan can you come down.  Josh wants
to show you something!"

Once she was at the bottom of the stair, I turned the lights out before she
had a chance to look up.  The sight of Josh's get-up was very eerie as he
came out of the bedroom.  To add to the imagery, as soon as Brutus saw the
spectacle, he howled like I'd never heard before.  It looked like Josh's
bright pumpkin head was floating in mid air, and supported on a pale glow
of his shoulders.  In the dark, as he moved from side to side, it really
was spooky.

"Good evening ladies and gentlemen.  Welcome to our little Halloween
get-together."  Josh croaked out in a cackling voice.

"OH MY GOD!"  Susan exclaimed.  "That's a fantastic illusion!"

I turned on the lights so she could see the whole costume.  "WOW!  Josh,
that's a great get-up.  You should get a prize for that at the dance."

"Ahh no Mom, I'll make sure I'm disqualified from entering any of the
contests.  That belongs to the kids who buy tickets to the dance.  Hey
Dad," Josh asked, "What's your costume like?"

"Oh it's nothing special Josh.... I was thinking of getting another pumpkin
like yours, but with all the work it takes to get into it, I thought just
one of us should have one.  I'm going as a pirate.  With your pumpkin, we
won't be able to put it on until after we get to the school.  You sure
won't be able to sit in the Jeep with it on."

I grabbed the camera and took a few pictures of Josh before we disrobed him
of his pumpkin pieces.  Then Susan got the giggles as she looked at Josh in
just his orange sweat pants and orange T-shirt.

On the night of the dance, I got dressed in my full pirate regalia.  Susan
insisted that it was great costume and almost made me unrecognizable.
Naturally, she had to get a few pictures of that.  With Josh dressed in his
orange sweat pants and T-shirt, we loaded the rest of his costume, my video
camera and my digital into the Jeep.  Apparently, I'd been elected to take
all the pictures for the evening.  Once we left the washroom at school with
Josh fully attired, we headed for the gymnasium.  Right on the dot of six,
Josh climbed onto the stage and stood before the microphone.

"GOOD EVENING.... gremlins, goblins, princesses, princes, Robin Hoods,
pirates of all kinds, ghouls, Draculas, farmers, presidents, and all you
other folks.  Thanks for coming to our little soirée for this night of fun.
I'm Josh Chambers, your MC for the festivities and as you can see,
something strange happened when I went by the pumpkin patch on my way
here."

At that very moment, he turned the light switch on to illuminate his head
and everyone applauded.

"I'd like to thank our principal, the teachers, and the parents who have
all participated to make this event happen.  We have a lot of games and
dancing lined up for your pleasure this evening, but first a special thanks
to our disc jockey, Mr. Jeferton for providing the music for tonight."
When another round of applause subsided, Josh announced, "OK!  LET'S
DANCE!"

Once the music began, although maybe not the style I favoured, it was great
for the young teenagers.  There was no shyness displayed in the whole
crowd, just a lot of kids laughing, dancing, and having fun.

I began to pan the gymnasium with my camera, taking it all in, occasionally
focussing on some couple or another.  For sure there wasn't a surplus of
boys in the gym, so there were a few girls that danced together.  One
couple of girls stood out from all the others -- one dressed as a great
looking Cher with the long black hair, sallow cheeks and just the right
amount of make up for realism -- and her partner was an exquisite, truly
exquisite, girl dressed up as the angel princess from the Wizard of Oz.

Once I had made it all the way around the gymnasium, the fourth song was
about to end.

I climbed onto the stage and started taking additional shots of all the
kids and chaperones.  It truly was a spectacular sight.  I lowered the
camera and went over to speak to Josh.

"How are you holding up son?"  I asked.  "You want me to get you something
to drink?"

"Doing fine Dad.... it's a success.  Yeah, a glass of punch would be great,
but I'll have to drink it in the wings with my head off while the music's
going.  Excuse me, it's time to announce the games."

And so it was, the evening progressed with a few simple games, more music,
more dancing, and the smashing four large pumpkin-shaped piñatas in each
corner of the gym, then more music and more dancing.  I thoroughly enjoyed
watching and taping all these people having fun.  The principal had
approached me while I was making the rounds and asked if I would be a judge
in picking out the best costumes.  I already had my favourites in mind, so
I had to say yes.

It was about 8:30 when Josh announced, "I'd like the pirate gentleman with
the camera to join me on stage."

Right away I headed from the refreshment table and went up on the stage
with another drink for Josh.  "Shiver me timbers Mr. Pumpkin," I shouted so
everyone could hear, "Whaat kin ah be doin' faar ya!"

Josh nodded to Mr. Jeferton to start the next set of songs before he
covered the microphone with his hand.  I suppose timing and a bit of
misjudgement counts for something in an instance like this.  The music
hadn't started, and Josh allowed his hand to slip from the microphone
pick-up.

Clear as a bell, his voice proclaimed for all to hear, "Dad I gotta go
pee!"

Naturally there was uproarious laughter and applause as the music began
while Josh and I rushed from the stage, down the corridor to the boys
washroom.  Suddenly I realized that the two inches difference in our height
made a big difference when we had this costume on.  Once I had him disrobed
of his pumpkin helmet and body, he rushed into one of the stalls.

All I heard was, "WHEW!  I made it!"

I was really enjoying a good giggle while he emptied his bladder.  When he
came out, I apologized.

"I'm sorry Josh, that had to have been very embarrassing for you."  I said
still grinning as I helped him on with his costume again.

Josh laughed, "It's OK dad, I've got it covered."

By the time we got back to the gym, the principal corralled me over with
the chaperones for our judging of the costumes.  Our decisions were easy
and without any complication -- actually quite unanimous.

When Josh went up to the stage again, there was more whistles and applause.
Josh announced, "Hey there's no sneaking around when you have a costume
like this one, so I thought it would be a good idea to tell everyone.  Who
would have thought that a pumpkin would have a problem with a thing as
natural as that?"  With more giggles and applause, Josh then announced,
"It's now time for the judging committee to announce their decisions for
best costumes."

As the principal went to the stage, I was taping Josh.  I was awed in spite
of the pumpkin costume; of the maturity he used to excuse his sudden
departure from the stage.  He handed the microphone to the principal, then
stepped back.

"The judges decided to break up the costumes into the following
categories," the principal began, "the scariest costume, best female
costume, best male costume, and then the best overall costume.  I have the
privilege to announce the scariest costume.... it goes to," he paused as he
stared over the crowd, "to that ghoulish young man with the hunchback over
in the far corner.  Come on up here son, tell us your name, and accept your
prize."

Actually his costume and make-up was scary.  He scared a number of people
unintentionally when they would just catch him out of the corner their eye.

With his acceptance speech over, the next category was announced for the
best female costume.  We judges all had agreed that the princess costume
(my choice from the beginning) was the overall best, but we couldn't give
her two prizes, so we went to the second best -- the girl dressed as
Cher.  Surprising, when she accepted her prize, her voice didn't come close
to that of Cher's, but it was the costume we judged.

The best male costume went to a boy who was dressed up as Robin, the Wonder
Boy.  He looked every bit as good as Burt Ward in the costume.  When asked,
he said he'd helped his mom with the sewing and put the suit together.

When the princess was announced as the best overall costume, there was
spontaneous applause and cheers from everyone.  With all the grace of a
princess, she made her way daintily up the stairs to the stage, then went
over to `Cher' and held her hand as they went over to the principal and the
microphone.  After the principal handed her the first place prize, she took
the microphone to give her thanks, still holding hands with `Cher'.

"I can't thank all of you enough...."  Right away the whole audience
gasped, including me!  It was the deep voice of a boy!  "I can't believe
that no one here recognized me," he continued as he gingerly pulled off his
wig, "after all I am Billy Parenny, the soccer team captain, and especially
when I spent the whole evening dancing with Melanie.  We both worked hard
on these costumes and it was nice that our efforts were appreciated.  Now
to steal an embarrassing line from Josh Chambers here, I have to say, I
GOTTA PEE and I'm going to use the boy's washroom!"

The crowd roared with laughter and applauded for the most extraordinary
performance of the evening.  For the most part, everyone, still scratching
their heads and laughing at Billy's performance, started cleaning up tables
and stacking chairs so the janitors wouldn't have too much to do over the
weekend.  About twenty minutes later, Billy came back into the gym in his
regular clothes, devoid of all make-up, still holding hands with Melanie
still dressed as Cher.  Again, we all stopped what we were doing and
started applauding again.  Together the couple took another bow in the
middle of the gym before digging in to help with the clean up.  For sure,
he was the hit of the evening.  For many of us, we were sending comments to
each other about the movie `Tootsie' with Dustin Hoffman.

The actual Halloween night the following week was anticlimactic.  Of course
Josh and I got into our costumes again and handed out candy to the
trick-or-treaters, much to the pleasure of everyone who came to the door.
Never had I experienced a Halloween like this one.

By the time November arrived, Josh was getting some real traction on his
efforts towards getting a National Student Exchange up and running.  For
about a week, he'd arrive home a little later than normal because of the
meetings he'd been having with the student council, teachers, and the
principal.  At dinner each night, he was very excited as he told Susan and
me the progress he'd made that day.  Susan and I didn't really believe that
Josh's National Student Exchange was going to reach fruition for some time
to come -- maybe in the spring if he really stuck with it and didn't get
discouraged, which was why we continued to encourage him with all the
enthusiasm we could muster.

However, at the end of the first week of November, we were wowed when Josh
received a letter asking him to appear before the Ontario Legislature's
Education Committee in order to promote his idea before the provincial
parliament.

Susan and I accompanied Josh to Queen's Park on the appointed day and we
sat in the public gallery and watched him.  Josh was dressed to the nines
in his suit and was wearing the same navy blue tie that I'd given him more
than a year earlier.  We had taken his suit back to Moore's in order to get
it altered to accommodate his growing stature and it fit him like a glove.

After he was introduced by the committee chairman, who was also our local
provincial Member of Parliament, he requested that Josh make his opening
statement.

"Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for giving me this opportunity to speak to
you today about something that I am very passionate about.  This summer, I
travelled the entire country with my Dad and I got to meet hundreds of
people from every single province and territory in Canada.  I witnessed
first hand the things that make every part of this country unique.  That
experience gave me a healthy respect for the things that make each of us
different, but also the things that make us the same.

"As we were driving those thousands of kilometres, I came up with my idea
for a national student exchange.  We already have International exchange
students to give young people the opportunity to meet people from other
countries and other cultures, but we don't have a similar program to allow
young Canadians to meet other young Canadians from other parts of the
country and to learn about the different cultures and ways of life in the
various provinces and territories.

"Make no mistake, each province and each territory is different from every
other province and territory.  Each has its own unique values, sometimes
its own language, and most definitely its own outlook on life and on the
world.  Most of our provinces are larger than the majority of the countries
of the world and yet we are together as one country.

"I'd like to see a national student exchange that will cross all provinces
and all territories in order to bring young Canadians together to learn
about each other, to learn to respect each other and to build a stronger
country for the future.  People like to talk about national unity, but
don't do much about it.  This exchange program is a way to do something
concrete to create a more united country."

Susan and I looked at each other as the gallery and the committee itself
broke with protocol and applauded Josh's words.

"He truly is 13 going on 30," Susan whispered.

"I know.  I can't believe he's the same boy that I first met back in camp."

The committee members, including both government and opposition members,
were very interested in Josh's concept and each one of them complimented
him on this thoughtfulness, his maturity and his dedication to his country
and his fellow students.

"Josh, I want to thank you on behalf of the whole committee for that
articulate, well thought out, and passionate speech.  It's clear that
you're a very mature and intelligent young man who has a lot to offer.
You've experienced more of this country of ours than, I'd bet, anyone on
this committee and you are to be congratulated," the committee chairman
said.

"Thank you Mr. Chairman," Josh replied.

"I'd like to open the floor to questions now," the chairman continued.
"We'll start with Mr. Edmund, the member from Hamilton-Mountain."

"Josh I'd also like to take a second to compliment you on your appearance
here today.  It's not often that we get to actually hear from a young
person such as yourself and when we do have that chance, it's refreshing to
get to meet someone as intelligent and well spoken as you. We've heard many
well educated adults make far less impressive presentations than you have
today.  My question is related to the selection of students who would be
involved.  How would you see that happening?"

"Well sir, I'd like to see at least one boy and one girl from each school
become involved.  I'd really like to see each paired with another student
from a different province.  For half of the school year, the out of
province student would stay with the family of their in-province partner
and go to school with them attending their classes.  For the second half of
the year, they'd switch.  That way each student would get a personal
experience in their partner's province and get to experience their home
life and to become friends with that person."

"That's a reasonable plan and I think given the number of students that
would be involved each year, it would go a long way towards meeting the
stated goals of the program," Mr. Edmund replied.

At the end of their meeting, they voted unanimously to take up the cause
and begin discussions with their counterparts in other provinces and in the
federal government in order to get the ball rolling.

Josh was absolutely ecstatic.  I was so proud of Josh.  Susan didn't stop
smiling for the rest of the day.  His presentation was unbelievable for a
thirteen-year-old.  It wasn't a done deal yet, but he had managed to get
his idea in front of people who could make it happen and he had impressed
them so much that in a rare show of political unity, they all agreed that
it was a fantastic idea that should be pursued.

>From that day on, Josh's plan began to take on a life of its own.  The
Ontario government voted to extend funding for the program and they began
talks with the other provinces and territories.

I found the whole scenario exhilarating.  I was able to join Susan and Josh
in their enthusiasm.  All together, it helped to make Remembrance Day less
somber that it had in other years -- especially with the recent death of
Rob Phillips.

Over the coming weeks, high-level discussions took place between provincial
and territorial governments as well as the federal government and various
school boards.  It all culminated during the annual First Minister's
Meeting (a meeting of all provincial and territorial premiers along with
the prime minister) in Toronto during which an agreement in principle was
signed that committed each provincial government and the federal government
to develop and introduce a National Student Exchange program beginning no
later than the 2001-2002 school year.

As the driving force behind the program, Josh was invited to the meeting to
witness first hand the signing of the agreement and none of us could be any
more proud of him than Susan and I were that day as we watched him share
the stage with the leaders of the nation.

The speed with which Josh's idea became a reality wasn't the last surprise
that was in store for us as Christmas approached.

Mark's birthday was on the 20th of December and he and Bryan were going to
be flying into Toronto on that day to spend a whole two weeks with us.  The
whole family would be together for Christmas and we were all on cloud nine
counting down the days.

Just a few days before Mark and Bryan's arrival, I returned home from
school and as usual, I was met by a very excited Brutus and an equally
happy Josh.

"Hey Dad!"  Josh said happily as he pulled me into my customary home from
school hug.  "How was class?"  He asked.

"The usual," I replied with a grin.

"Something came in the mail today.  I haven't opened it yet though.  I
wanted to wait until you and Mom got home."  Josh said.

"Oh yeah?  Who's it from?"  I asked.

"It's in a real fancy envelope and it's from the Governor General's
office."

"Really?"  I replied.  "That sounds like something important.  I'll bet
your dying to read it."

"I am, but I wanted to share it with you and Mom.  Mom's already home.
She's making dinner.  Let's go see her so I can open it," Josh said and
pulled me by my arm towards the kitchen.

"Hi Tom," Susan said pleasantly as I entered the kitchen.

"Hi Susan, sounds like we're in for a bit of excitement," I chuckled.

"That's not unusual around here," she chuckled.

"Go ahead kiddo," I said.  "Open it."

"Ok," Josh said as he grabbed a knife from the drawer and carefully slit
open the envelope.  He removed the letter and began to read.  I watched his
expression carefully.  It very quickly changed from curiosity to
astonishment and then happiness.  Josh pulled out a chair and sat down hard
still staring at the letter.

"What does it say honey?"  Susan asked.

Josh cleared his throat and then answered, "It says...." he paused.  "It
says.... Her Excellency the Governor General of Canada acting on behalf of
Queen Elizabeth the Second, Queen of Canada is pleased to inform that you,
Joshua Michael Chambers, has been appointed as a member of the Order of
Canada in recognition of your extraordinary efforts towards bettering
Canada for young people and for all Canadians.  You are invited to appear
at Rideau Hall on April the 25th 2001 in order to receive your insignia and
to join the Her Excellency the Governor General along with others being
appointed on the same day for a formal dinner."

"Oh my God!"  Susan exclaimed.

I stood there absolutely speechless for a moment.  "Joshy," I said, "Do you
know what that means?  That's the highest civilian honour that they can
give you.  It's like a knighthood in England."

"Honey, I am so proud of you!"  Susan said.

"I am too kiddo," I added.

"I can't believe this," Josh said finally.  "This is amazing!  We've got to
call Mark and Bryan and Shelly!  It says here that I can bring a guest to
the formal dinner.  Do you think Shelly would want to go?"

"I don't doubt that she would love to go, kiddo.  I've got to check, but I
think that makes you the youngest person ever appointed to the Order," I
said.

Inside the envelope was another piece of paper, this one was a photocopy
and it had a post-it note stuck to it.  The clerk at Rideau Hall who sent
it, had written a note on it.

"Dear Mr. Chambers, usually nominees to the order never find out who
nominated them, but I thought you would like to see this."

The photocopied piece of paper was a letter requesting that Josh be
considered for the order and there were fourteen signatures on it.  Each of
the ten provincial premiers, three territorial premiers, and the prime
minister had signed the letter putting Josh's name forward.

Josh raced off to phone his other loved ones while I made the calls to my
mother and brothers.  There was no doubt that the visitor's gallery in
Rideau Hall would once again be filled with the members of our large,
complex, and loving family.

That Tuesday before Mark and Bryan arrived, we had our final Air Cadet
training night for the year.  With all the kids' minds focused on the
Christmas holidays, we decided to go with a very light training schedule.
I was teaching the new recruits a course in basic aeronautics and I did my
best to keep it as light and interesting as I could.  I managed to cover
the material pretty quickly and I decided to use the last fifteen minutes
of the class as a "get to know me" question and answer session.

"That about covers the basics of aeronautics," I said at the end.  "This
might seem a bit boring now, but believe me, if you want to earn your wings
and become a pilot, you need to know this stuff.  What I'd like to do now
is something a bit unusual.  I'm the newest officer here and I'd like to
give you a chance to get to know me better.  If there's anything that you'd
like to know about my background or my qualifications, I'd be happy to
answer."

I answered a few easy questions about my flight training and about my
military experience before the expected question popped up.  A cadet who
was a nice enough kid, but who qualified as sort of the class clown asked
me about the ribbon on my uniform.

"That ribbon represents the star of courage.  Cadet Chambers also has one.
It's a bravery medal awarded by the Governor General," I took a few minutes
to tell the class about the circumstances under which Josh, Mark, and I
were awarded the medals.  When I finished explaining, there was silence for
a moment before the same boy responded with a new question.

"What's it like actually shooting someone?" he asked.

At that moment, Josh turned in his seat and glared at the boy.  If looks
could kill, Cadet Brown would have been taken out in a pine box.

The boy, realizing that he had stepped on a land mine stammered out an
apology with a somewhat worried look on his face.  "Sir.... sir, I'm sorry,
but.... well, it's something that I think I need to know..... 'cause...."

"Don't worry about it Cadet Brown," I interrupted.  "It's a valid question
and I will answer it."

Josh looked at me questioningly and I could detect a bit of worry on his
face that perhaps this would upset me all over again.

"It's a terrible thing," I began.  "It's a God-awful thing that takes a lot
out of you and it takes a long time to get over it.  It's not like a war
where it's impersonal.  I was face to face with that man when I pulled the
trigger and it hurt like hell to do it.  Did I do the right thing?  You bet
I did.  Would I do it again?  In a heartbeat, but it was a terrible
experience.  If it hadn't been for the support of my family and loved ones,
I don't know how I'd have dealt with it."

"Thanks for answering me," Cadet Brown responded softly.  "My Dad's a
policeman and he had to shoot someone once too, but he'd never talk about
it.  He started drinking a lot after that too."

"Cadet Brown, I'd be happy to talk about this with you privately if you
prefer."  I wrote down my phone number and cell phone number on a piece of
paper and handed it to him.  "Anytime you want to talk, just call me."

"Thank you sir," he replied.

On the way home, Josh mentioned the incident.  "That was a nice thing that
you did for Cadet Brown," Josh observed.  "I was really mad at first when
he asked you about the shooting."

"Yes Josh, I saw the look that you gave him.  It looked like you were about
to shoot lasers out of your eyes!"  We both had a good laugh about that.
"But you know Josh," I added, "We have to reach beyond the hurt and
well.... I figured that a lot of people helped me out, so the least I can
do is try to help out someone else too."

"I'm glad you didn't tell him it was my uncle."  Josh said quietly.

"That wouldn't be up to me to say that Josh and I don't think it's
something you would've said either," I explained.  "I know that if you had
told him that in front of everyone there, it would be in anger, and that
wouldn't do you or him any good."

"Dad, I'm glad you're always right.  I would've gotten angrier and maybe
we'd have never known about his problem.  Do you think there's anything you
can do for him?"

"Yes I can Josh, if he's willing and well.... it might depend on the
circumstances with the rest of his family."  Actually, I was thinking out
loud.  "We don't know how his mom might be dealing with the problem.  We
don't know if he has any brothers or sisters and how they're being affected
by the situation."

"Are you thinking about Alcoholics Anonymous and Ala-non?"  Josh asked.

"Yes that's one way.  By the way, there's Ala-Teen as well, which might
help if Cadet Brown is the only one affected in the family.  More important
than anything though, is for him to have a friend and a buddy he can talk
to.... someone that understands what he's going through."

"I could do that."  Josh said with a grin.  I just grinned back.  After a
moment of thought, Josh exclaimed, "Daaaad!  Did you just set me up?"  I
didn't reply, but just glanced over at him once in a while, still grinning.
I knew if anyone could, Josh would be the one to gain the confidence of
Cadet Brown because of his background with his father, his uncle, and
Mr. Callahan.  Every so often, Josh would catch me grinning at him and with
a grin of his own, would just shake his head.  By the time we got parked in
the driveway our grinning had turned to giggles and then into uproarious
laughter.  Cadet Brown would be in good hands and between the two us, I
felt he might become a happy cadet.

The last couple of days before the arrival of Mark and Bryan seemed to drag
on and on.  I'd finished my classes until the new year and Josh's school
shut down the day that the rest of our family was to arrive.

We headed excitedly to the airport to meet them and as often is the case
with easterly flights, the plane had arrived early due to a good tail wind.

"Tom!  Josh!" I heard as soon as we entered the terminal.  In virtually an
instant, Mark was on me and I was wrapped in a very loving and very
familiar hug.  Josh joined in and so did Bryan when he managed to catch up
to his highly athletic and energetic brother.

It was those airport moments that we all enjoyed immensely.  We took a few
minutes to savour our four-way hug before we headed out to the Jeep and
headed home.

"I can't believe that Christmas vacation is finally here," Mark said from
the back seat.

"I've been counting the days," I said as I smiled and reached over to grasp
Bryan's hand.

We approached the turnoff to our street, but I kept on driving past it.
"Did you just miss our turn?"  Mark asked.

Josh snickered while Bryan and I glanced at each other.  "What makes you
think that?"  Bryan asked.

"That was the street that Tom and Josh live on wasn't it?"

"Imagine that.  I must be getting soft in the head in my old age," I said
as I exited the highway and pulled onto Dundas Street and headed west
towards another of our usual destinations.

It only took Mark a second to realize that we were heading to the Mandarin.
"I think I know where we're going," he said.

"We figured you'd be hungry after that long flight from Calgary," I
replied.

"I'm famished," Bryan said.

"I'm hungry too," Josh added with a knowing grin.  "I could eat at the
Mandarin every day."

We pulled into the parking lot and Mark still wasn't suspecting a thing.
He was used to people not paying attention to his birthday and that was
something that we all wanted to change right away.  This was to be Mark's
first birthday away from the clutches of his vile father and we wanted it
to be very special.

We entered the restaurant and Bryan had a quick chat with the hostess who
smiled and led us to a back room.  She opened the door for us and a wall of
noise hit us.

"Uncle Tommy and Uncle Bryan are here!"  Matthew shouted.

"Josh and Mark too!"  Richard added.

Along with the twins, Anne, James, my mother, Susan, Andy, and Darren were
all seated around a big table wearing party hats, blowing noisemakers and
clapping for Mark.  There was a huge banner on the wall that read:

"Happy 14th Birthday Mark!  >From all of us who love you"

We had all signed it.

Mark was speechless for a second as Josh put his arm around his shoulder
and cheered him on.  I reached down and squeezed his other shoulder and
whispered, "See how much we all love you, Marky?"

He looked at me and smiled like I had never seen him smile before.  His
eyes were moist as he entered the room and hugged everyone thanking them
profusely.

Bryan and I looked at each other and exchanged a wink.  Everyone knew what
was going on except for Mark.  We had to make this birthday special for him
because most of his previous birthdays had been so lousy.  As we watched
him interact with our extended family, it was obvious that he'd finally
turned the page on his former life and finally accepted that not only did
we love him intensely, but that he was completely worthy of all that love.

We ate a huge buffet dinner and, as always, spent our time as a big happy
family kidding with and gently ribbing each other.  It was almost non-stop
laughter during the whole three hours that we were there.  After everyone
finished eating, the waiter brought a large black forest cake with fifteen
candles on it and Mark blew out every one on the first try.  The cake was
absolutely delicious and there was very little to take home by the time we
were done.

With the food out of the way, it was time for presents.  Mark received
quite an impressive haul of gifts that easily rivalled anything that he had
ever received before in his young life.  The twins gave him a new aluminium
baseball bat, Anne and James gave him some games for his computer.  Andy
bought him some DVDs of baseball movies including a documentary on the Blue
Jays 1992 and 1993 World Series wins.  My mom bought him a really nice
jacket.  Susan gave him some new Khaki pants and a couple of shirts.
Darren bought him a subscription to Sports Illustrated Magazine.

>From Josh he received some new fishing gear and from Bryan he received a
new flight bag that he would use to carry his charts and other flight gear
when he went flying.

He opened my gift last.  I gave him a pilot emergency kit.  It's a compact
kit that you take with you when you fly -- especially in remote areas
that gives you critical survival equipment and supplies that will help you
to survive a crash.

When the party broke up and we all headed home, he looked like the happiest
boy in the world.  Seeing him that way warmed all of our hearts.

"Thanks Tom," He said later that evening as I was tucking him and Josh in.
"That was the best birthday I ever had.  I love you."

"I love you to kiddo," I replied and hugged him fiercely.

"Goodnight Dad," Josh said.  "You did really good today," he said as he
hugged me and then kissed my temple.

"Love you son," I replied and kissed his forehead.

Bryan repeated pretty much the same actions as I had and then, after
pausing to pet Brutus who was sleeping next to Josh's bed, we both
retreated to my apartment for the night.

I've said it before -- love makes the heart grow fonder -- even more so
when you get to sleep with your soul mate!  You betcha!