Date: Thu, 25 Dec 2008 00:11:01 -0500 (EST)
From: jerryw@pipeline.com
Subject: Christmas Eve in the Tenderloin
Christmas Eve in the Tenderloin
by
Jerry Weiss
It was late on Christmas Eve, 1971, in San Francisco, and I was on my way
home to Berkeley, to join my man Bob in our little rented cottage. I was
coming from a party my friend Steve had invited me to, in some richly
appointed digs near Ghirardelli Square where he was staying. The owner was
a kind of wealthy hippie and always had a house full of new age hangers-on,
old friends, assorted young men chosen for their spectacular asses or
dicks, and dope dealers. We'd been smoking his Maui wowie and listening
to Virgil Fox's album "Heavy Organ," and the St. Matthew Passion while
tripping on the holiday decorations, the geodes and the moving op art he
had projected on the walls. I myself, a former doctoral student and
sometime actor, was currently on the very fashionable at-the-time ATD (Aid
to the Totally Disabled), California's gift to the well-educated,
proletarian leisure class who'd copped to "going crazy" on LSD as a way of
getting out of working while we toked up, had lots of sex, and studied the
Bhagavad Gita, St. John of the Cross, Buddhist sutras, Carlos Castenada,
Black Elk, Sufi texts, the Cabala, and anything else we were turned on to
by our fellow Age of Aquarians.
I took the Polk St. bus, passing a few desultory hustlers, last minute
shoppers at Walgreens, and drunken customers of gay bars making their way
home, and decided to get off at Eddy St. and walk the rest of the way to
the East Bay Bus Terminal on Mission and (Second?) (BART wasn't open
yet.). Eddy St. is the main drag of the Tenderloin, an old last-chance
district mainly consisting of cheap hotels, seedy bars and those who had
hit bottom, San Francisco's version of the old Bowery in Manhattan. At the
time, many of the city's gay bars were still located there. some were
dives, others were hustler bars or drag show bars all gussied up for the
holidays with lots of tinsel and twinkling lights.
Coming down from my high, I was thinking of the Presbyterian church I had
been to that week, where I had heard they were granting small stipends to
the down and out. I had pleaded the same case I had to the state - I was
out of funds and couldn't get myself together because I had screwed up my
mind with acid. The female minister had given me a hundred bucks. Was I
scamming her? Was I really fucked up? There certainly were a dozen
communes where I had friends and could easily get a meal, and shit, I had
just been to a mansion on North Point where I'd been served champagne and
canap‚s.
Musing on these contradictions, as I neared Market St. I passed a gay bar,
and lying in the gutter was a maybe thirty- or forty-something man with a
gash on his forehead. The fog had turned to a slight drizzle, and he was
also wet. Had he been in a fight in the bar and gotten thrown out on his
ass? Was he just drunk and had fallen and hit his head? In any case, he
was the picture of misery. What other pedestrians there were were passing
him by and ignoring him.
It being Christmas Eve and all, I was feeling a bit holy, even though I
considered myself a Buddhist Jew, emphasis on the boo, and thinking about
the sincere young minister who'd given me the $100, I asked myself what JC
would do. This was no place for this guy to spend the night - he'd
probably gotten stinking drunk out of loneliness at Christmas.
I reached down and helped him up. "Where do you live?" I asked, "I'll take
you home." He looked at me dazed and confused. "Wha..?" He looked
pitifully into my eyes. I tried to look kindly. "Mission and Fifth"
"C'mon, let's get you home and clean up that cut." I offered him my arm.
He looked at me like I was Jesus and leaned into me.
(For the record, I did kinda look like Jesus at the time - I had hair past
my shoulders and a beard. Muscular and short, I was still thin at 32 and
had a baby face which made me look younger. Sometimes I would clean up my
act and turn tricks in front of the St. Francis Hotel - more for kicks than
for a steady income, but that's a story for another time.)
We stumbled down the streets in relative silence, me steadying him when he
was about to fall, him leaning into me, and occasionally looking at me like
I was an angel. Eventually we arrived at the kind of dusty, creaky,
rooming house smelling of decades of accumulated booze, cigarettes and cum
dripping from the walls that is so unique to the Tenderloin and the South
of Market neighborhood (at the time) of San Francisco. There was an
attendant behind a desk who looked at me quizzically, like maybe I was a
hustler who was gonna take this guy up to his room to rob him. "It's
okay," I said, "He's my friend. I found him lying in the street with this
gash in his forehead, I'm going to take him up to his room and clean him up
and put him to bed." The attendant went back to his newspaper and we
trekked up three flights of stairs to a tiny room with a bed, a chest of
drawers and a chair, and a single bulb on a chain hanging from the ceiling.
I sat him on the bed and wet the towel by the sink in the room with hot
water. "This may sting a little," I said, and carefully washed his wound.
It was superficial, he'd be okay as long as it didn't get infected. He sat
there and let me do my thing, all the time looking at me like a little boy.
Finishing up, I lay him down on the bed, and brushed his hair from his
face. "What's your name?" I asked. I don't remember what he said. "I'm
Jerry... what happened?"
He mumbled something about being out drinking because he was feeling bad
about it being Christmas Eve and he had no one to be with. I brought the
chair over, and held his hand and caressed his hair.
"I'm going to sit with you for a while.. then I have to go home, the last F
bus for Berkeley leaves at 1:10, otherwise I'll be stranded." He looked at
me with such disappointment. He didn't say it, but I know he wanted me to
stay and maybe lie down beside him.
"You be sure and go to the emergency room tomorrow if this looks bad," I
told him.
After about a half hour, it was time to go if I was going to make the bus.
I got up to leave.
"You.can't.stay??" he mumbled. Such a devastated look.
"Gotta make my bus."
And I left.
Should I have stayed? Did I make things better or worse? Should I have
left him in the gutter? What happened to him? Is he still alive? Does he
remember this episode? Did he get AIDS? Did he sober up and go back to, I
don't know, Oklahoma, and enter into a loveless marriage? Was he a great
writer who was buoyed by my kindness (?) and went on to write great books?
Did he get drunk again on Christmas Day and end up in jail or the hospital?
Who was this stranger that passed through my life that evening?
As I write this, it's 37 years later --- I'm an old man now, though like
almost every gay man I know, I can pass for ten years younger. It's
Christmas eve, I'm alone and about to make dinner. The TV and the net are
my companions . although I do have a wide circle of friends, they're not
here tonight. I'm just thinking about this little encounter and wondering
what happened to the guy.
Peace on earth, good will to men, y'all.