Date: Sat, 12 Apr 2003 09:29:58 EDT
From: TjLINY@aol.com
Subject: my life with pete- update 1

My life with Pete

Update 1

Pete and I are now in the process of getting another adoption going. We
were told about a 17-year-old boy. He is not gay, but he needs a loving
family. His worker has spoken to him about gay people to see what his
reaction was to gays. We understand he is very open to gay people. His
worker has not told him about us yet. She is waiting to see what Pete and I
decide about him.  His name is Scott, yes he is an older boy, but he needs
a loving family. He has been in the system for 6 years; he has had many
problems to deal with and still is. This will be a new opportunity for Pete
and I to really help a child in need. Even thou he is 17yo, he is more like
a 15 yo in many ways. This will be where Pete and I will need to be very
patient and very loving with him. He has special needs in school and in
living in a family again. He does not know what its even like to be able to
get himself something to eat without asking first. We understand that he is
talking about joining the army when he ages out of the system, because he
has nothing in his life. And no place to go. Pete and I have more to learn
about him before we decide. But, if I know my Pete, Scott will be our 3rd
son.

If any of you have ever thought about adoption, look into it. You may not
get a gay child.  But there are many children that need love, and you to
help them. We were told by our adoption agency that gay parents seem to do
VERY well with the raising of these children. More and more agencies and
workers are becoming open about gays adopting.  It is a know fact that a
child is safer in a gay household than in one with a hetro dad. Gays don't
rape their children, it is a known fact.  In New York State alone, there
are over 1600 children legally free to be adopted.  Pete and I know that
the system is failing many of them, not all foster parents do right for
these kids. We can go on with what's wrong with the system. Pete and I have
seen and heard about many things over the years. We have heard of children
being put back with other family members only to have them be abused by
them and be returned into the system. So brothers and sisters open your
lives and your hearts and help a child. Yes, not all the children will not
be easy, like we had with our first 2, many have problems and it will take
much of you time. That's part of being a mom or dad. But the love you get
in return well pays for it.

I hope you all think about adopting......

That's it for now, will keep you updated


Let us know if you get into adoption, we would love to hear from you. And
we would like to hear from anyone else who has adopted.

Joe <tjliny@aol.com>